As a kid growing up, you learn to be "nice" to other people and not be "mean" right? But truth be told we have ALL been on both sides of that game, where we were the ones being picked on and there were times when we were doing the picking, and maybe not even realizing it.
Going through college you learn that some "kids" never grow up, they will always think they are better than you and try to prove you wrong or bring you down cause it makes them feel better. As a teacher we know to treat all our kids fairly and give them all the same amount of respect, not show favorites and not single out kids. Also learning that "cliques" start earlier and earlier in school.
Your whole life you strive to be the best person you can be and hope that you are treated with respect; focusing on how you are acting, but then you have kids..........
Now the focus is how are other kids treating them. The questions like, "Are other kids picking on them? Are they being nice to other kids? Are they playing nice with everyone and not leaving them out?"
The reason this post is coming out is because it got me thinking, what really happens in school with the kids, how are they really behaving?? I have a little more control with Jaya and Neela than I do with Porter. And we have already had issues here. Jaya is very sensitive to the fact that she does still wear pull ups sometimes and yesterday asked, "How come Neela gets to wear underwear to bed and I don't....I am older than her??? When can I bring my bag home from school?" (this bag has a couple extra pull ups and liners for her, she keeps it in her locker). This made me wonder why she would want to bring her bag home. She said one of the other girls was asking her what was in it and when she wouldn't tell her she started to get grumpy about it. WHY...why is it any of her concern and what were we supposed to tell Jaya....how do we explain that she is special and needs extra help in those areas....I am not sure I am ready for these questions mostly because I don't know what to say. I feel useless right now and just not sure how to handle the situation. I know she will understand as she gets older but will people pick on her if they find out...how will she handle it in school??
I know only time will tell and we will deal with things as they come up.....just needed to vent!
1 comment:
I'm so sorry you have to go through this! It's one of those touchy situations that you just don't how to handle it without possibly making it worse. Praying for you! It's amazing how many of those same questions run through my mind about my own kids too. Be strong girls!!
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